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Eating Out Anxiety

Entertainment / Fashion / Health / July 3, 2017

My bestie and I went out to eat the other day.  I looked over the menu carefully- we had never been to this particular restaurant and as any plus size girl knows, the ordering at a restaurant is one of the most anxiety-inducing things a plus size girl can do.  The same goes for trying on outfits, sitting in a booth of any sort and even getting on rides or playing games at places of entertainment.  A lot of my friends wouldn’t understand the innate fear that a simple ordering of lunch causes.


This is the anxiety society has placed on the plus size person. When I go out with friends, I am always aware of how much food I put on my plate- even when we are home I worry that I will be seen as a “chunker” for taking “too much”.  My friends could care less how much I eat- unless I am not eating enough and then they worry I am sick- but to be honest, the waitress could make a judgment… “Did the plus size girl just order a burger and fries?!? OMG doesn’t she care what she puts in her body? – no wonder she is huge!” Or on the flipside- Plus Size girlie orders a grilled chicken salad- “OK fatty we know you are going to order a whole pizza as soon as you get home”.

There is no winning. Society has made it feel impossible to do something as simple as ordering a meal in public without causing an innate fear that you are going to be ridiculed.  It doesn’t matter which way you go- order pasta- “fatty”.   Order kale- “yeah right you don’t actually eat like that!”  When I want to go have a good time, sometimes I do not want to go eat just because the simple act of eating in public is cause for such stress that the entire rest of the event would be ruined.  Am I the only one who feels like this? Are other plus size women frozen in place when asked to lunch with co-workers or dinner by the cute guy down the hall?  Do you cringe at the idea of having a few friends over for pizza and movies because what if they see that you look sloppy, awful, lazy and disgusting in PJs munching your pizza? Wait- do you have one slice? Two? Is ordering the boneless chicken that you love OK or is it too much? What about the brownie cookie things?!? NO WAY- that screams “fatty”…

 

Tell me- how do you as a beautiful plus size person deal? You know that you totally should be able to enjoy a meal- whether it’s 500 calories or 5000- as an adult and yet- society shames the plus size person no matter what.  So, do we eat the burger? Go for the salad? Say screwball and eat what you want because they are gonna complain anyway?  That’s my goal- to say “screw you!” to anyone who has a problem.

It’s hard though…

 

So gimme your best thoughts on it.  Ladies- what do you think?

 

 


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4 Comments

on July 3, 2017

In certain situations, I wonder if I am taking to much. Or feel weird if I’m the only one who finishes all my food, but I’ve learned not to let it bother me at all. If I go out to eat I want a taste experience whether it be 500 or 5000 calories. Regardless of my weight, I should be able to just like anyone else no matter their size or race enjoy a fantastic night out with friends having an enjoyable meal.

on July 3, 2017

It can be so tough! In certain situations, I wonder if I am taking to much. Or feel weird if I’m the only one who finishes all my food, but I’ve learned not to let it bother me at all. If I go out to eat I want a taste experience whether it be 500 or 5000 calories. Regardless of my weight, I should be able to just like anyone else no matter their size or race enjoy a fantastic night out with friends having an enjoyable meal.

on July 5, 2017

Great knowledge!



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